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Amanda Scocozzo, C.P.C.
(347) 913-5433
www.empowerlifecoach.com

Happiness From Relationships

We all know that money doesn't buy happiness, though deep down, many people seem to have a hard time believing it.  The truth is, wealth has far less to do with happiness than does the quality of your relationships.

Unless you are a hermit on a mountaintop, most of your life happens within the context of your personal, professional, and family relationships.  This is true for introverts as well as for extroverts (I say this as an introvert!)  While these various relationships can be very different, the skills involved in keeping these relationships satisfying are often the same or similar for different types of relationships.

The parent-child relationship is in some ways like any other relationship, and at the same time it is unique.  Parents are responsible for their children, and parents are supposed to be in charge of their children.  But unlike most hierarchical relationships, the parent-child relationship is close, intimate, and loving.  Many people are uncomfortable with this dichotomy and try to keep these aspects separate.  Most people who contact a parenting coach want help with the hierarchical aspects of parenting.  "How do I get my child to do what I say?"  But the relationship is at the root of all parenting matters.  A good relationship with your children can be the most effective discipline tool.  And, ultimately a good relationship is more likely to lead to happiness in being a parent than all the discipline techniques in the world.

Now What Exactly DO You Do?

A MORE PERFECT UNION * Hope Mirlis
Life/Relationship Coach * Wedding Officiant * Yoga Teacher
www.PerfectUnionNY.com

I have to honestly say that I don't know what many of my friends do. The corporate culture has grown so much in the last decade that new job titles have too. This is probably due to specialization in a field or new tech jobs. However, I find it in finance, as well. Yes, I could just ask, but I don't want to risk looking stupid. After spending most of my career in non-profits, there's lots to learn - especially as I build my life coaching practice.

So, I ask you to take on this simple experiment. 
Ask THREE people you know to explain to you what you do. Listen to the words they use. Are they accurate? Are they complete? Does it sound fun? Is what they describe a good fit for YOU?

Nothing was so informative, as one of my mother's friends asking my mother what I did. I just happened to be standing there so I could have easily answered the question myself. I was just curious to know what someone else may say. Someone as close to me as my mother. Initially there was a look of dread in her eyes. She didn't want to do it. And I was equally apprehensive. However, she did just fine. Since my practice is rather young, my mother added in jobs that I recently let go. However, she clearly explained my main foci: officiating weddings, teaching yoga and coaching people on personal and professional issues.

The yoga one is easy, and once people understand what the word 'officiant' means, they clearly understand that I perform wedding ceremonies. However, there tend to be questions around the job description of 'life coach.' When I tell people I'm a coach, some get all bright eyed and excited, however most don't know exactly what I do as a coach.

Some people tend to use life coach interchangeably with therapist, mentor, adviser, and consultant. And while there may be some overlap in what a coach does, according to The Institute of Life Coach Training (where I got most of my training):

Coaching entails working with people who already have a measure of "success" in their lives, but who want to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be in their profession and their personal life.

So while some coaches specialize in parenting or career, health or life/work balance, we're all working in the PRESENT. Looking to analyze where you are and the feasibility and the path to get you where you want to be. With my personal coaching practice, it doesn't concern me what got you there or what happened in your past to give you your belief and value system. What matters to me is what YOU want. And I am going to do everything in my power to motivate you to get there. To cut through the censors and to break the habits. To ask you the tough questions and require clear answers that give you your nugget of truth.

So, getting back to your experiment, how did others do describing your job or career? If you had to explain what you do, could you so it makes sense to layperson?   

Feel free to share questions, comments and the RESULTS of your experiment in the COMMENT section below.

If the shoe fits wear it, How is your life like a pair of shoes?

What woman would say no to a shopping spree of shoes? How many women do you know that have a special shoe for every occasion? Something comes over us and when we see a pair of shoes, there is a “must have” process that comes over us. But not just any shoe, the shoe that is special uniquely for you.

The shoe of your dreams

How many times have you walked down the street and suddenly a mysterious energy is shifting your direction? Something is calling you, an explainable force, and there in front of you stood  an illuminating imagine- like a divine light from Heaven. As you approach, your heart is racing, you are captivated and drawn closer, to arrive to the most beautiful shoes you have ever seen. It must be your lucky day because they are having a one day sale. It was if the God’s brought you here, and you dash inside to try them on. As you placed them ever so graciously on your feet, it was as if you and the shoe had become one. You stood in front of the mirror in awe of their beauty, and knew that you had found the shoe of your dreams. Not only were they more beautiful than you ever imagined, but they massaged the bottoms of your foot as you glided across the floor.

The divine light shines around you, as you cherish the shoes of your dreams

At a glance over your shoulder, there was a long line due to the one day sale. Customers were getting impatient and angry yelling at the sales clerks behind the counter. People were pushing and shoving, anxiously trying to get to the front of the line, children were crying, items were being thrown on the floor. You stood there, once again in your divine light, smiling, none of this mattered. There in your arms, were the shoes of your dreams. No one and nothing can take that away. It was not about what the other women were buying, it was what drew you there and brought you to these shoes. 20 minutes later, you reach the front of the line. You look into the eyes of the frazzled sales clerk, who is counting the minutes til her break time. You look at her and smile, expressing your joy in today’s 1 day sale, thank her for her help, and wish her a nice day. These shoes now have not only changed your life, but you have now shared this joy with another and brightened their hectic day.

You are asking yourself now, what can a pair of shoes possibly have to do with me? Well it is not actually about the shoes in a material sense, It is about the energy that you felt when your eyes met these shoes. They were not the usual everyday shoe. There was something different about them. (Look objectively now , as an outsider at the picture above and what do you see?) There is no sole in the front of the shoe. How will this woman walk on the pavement or the streets you may wonder. How will she protect the sole of her foot from getting scraped or cut? Are you wondering how she keeps the shoe on her foot and actually walks in these shoes? Maybe you think these shoes are completely impractical and there will never be a place to put them to use. Are you wondering what people would say or is it influencing your decision now to appreciate the beauty in this shoe?

What happened is is now you are seeing the shoe and analyzing it. You are looking for something to be wrong with it and judging it. That shoe may not be for everyone, but there is someone out there who bought this shoe and fell in love with it, it may be their most prized possession.

Will you buy the shoe for its beauty or judge the shoe for being different? 

What if you stopped thinking, and set yourself free? How different would your life be?

Does it really matter what others think?

How can you stop listening to what others think is best and not let it influence your decisions?

How often have you had something in your life you were passionate about, but over thought it and destroyed it. What if it did not have to be that way?

What if, you could find the beauty and embrace it knowing it was the best thing for you.?

How can you be confident in the choices you make, and align yourself to your personal values?

What is possible, when you live from a place of absolute certainty and no regret?

Leave your comments or thoughts below,

Amanda Scocozzo, C.P.C.

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